Friday 15 October 2010

You Bringing Up Your Child In The Right Way?


If you have children, you have to spend sleepless nights and restless days to nurture them. Children are like plants that need regular watering, weeding and pruning. Thus, parenting is a full time job where all your skills will be tested by none other than your children. As a parent you have to be ready to bear the child~s whining, protests when you tell your child to clean the room.

But good parenting wants you to change this attitude of the child. However, that does not mean you have to resort to violent means. Every child has his/her own nature and thus parents have to deal with each child in a different manner. Remember that parents have a major influence on the child~s behavior.

According to good parenting, you have to be strict with the child at times. At times you have to say ~no~ to him and you must also teach him to say ~no~ to wrong things. Lay down some rules and be sure to be consistent in the way you handle your children.

Good parenting does not mean that you have to be negative all the time. Love has the capability and capacity to change. However, effective parenting requires that love have to be coupled with strict and firm limits to enforce a difference. So, establish a loving and affectionate relationship with your children but still be firm. Take the example of situation when your child wants to spend the night at a neighbor~s house. If you do not approve of it, you should explain the reason. Do not go in detail, but let your child know about your decision and be firm. Do this in a loving way.

Try not to grudge at every activity and action of your child. Try no to be critical all the time, and try to look at the positive sides of child~s personality. If you feel that there are certain habits that need amending, try to improve as you feel they should be. Good parenting means how you handle the misbehavior and what difference it makes by affecting the child, and whether the misbehavior continues or stops.

In the end one can say that good parenting means good understanding of discipline techniques along with the consistency in your behavior and reaction to situations. Parenting is about your attitude, your capability and the way you steer yourself to bring up a child.

No comments:

Post a Comment